I have just received an invite which had made my blood run cold. Yes, it’s the 5 year invite to my old school reunion (my year only) – I hate this as I do not have happy memories of my schooldays there. Shall I tell them to bog off, ask them to take my name off the list or just ignore it? I really feel like telling them exactly why I don’t want to go.
Phew! Strong words eh? You know – even hearing people have this problem, which explains why we have novels on this very topic, including The Last Time I saw You by Elizabeth Berg. You may find such books therapeutic reading, or you may want to hurl them at the wall. (I confess, I did that once.)
It really depends on the kind of person you are, and what you feel comfortable doing. In your original email (not included here) you say you want to write – why not do exactly that? Try several drafts until you feel you’ve got it right, and it says exactly what you want to say, without insulting anyone else in the process. Alternatively, you could simply wait for the next invite in five years – by then, you’ll have had plenty of thinking time to know what you want to do!